Last month, I returned from my first solo-international trip to Portugal. This is one of the stories that changed my perspective on my life. I expected this trip to teach me many things: I expected to be empowered. I expected to feel some sort of liberation. I expected to grow my confidence. What I didn’t […]
“The World Needs Your Brilliance” is not a trite platitude, nor is it meant to bolster the ego. Rather, it serves as a reminder that you have something of value to offer in a world that often feels deeply in need of loving kindness, compassion and empathy. The world truly does need your brilliance. Now, more than ever.
You may be able to relate to feeling like you are IN a storm. After all, we are living in one supercell of a storm that is the ongoing pandemic. Everyone goes through storms throughout their lives. It’s called being Human. But, what if you could change your thinking so that you no longer were living IN a storm, but instead you WERE the storm? How might THAT way of thinking, change your circumstances? Change YOU?
Our culture celebrates shiny, perfect things and people are no exception. We live in a culture of perfectionism and pretending, even while there is a counter-movement to live vulnerably and wholeheartedly (Thank you very much, Brene Brown!). We post our perfect lives, with our perfect partners and our perfect kids, going on our perfect vacations…and then back to our perfect careers. We all know that social media does a number on our psyches. We KNOW that we are not seeing people’s perfect lives, but we still get sucked into the comparison game and feeling really lousy that our messed up, ugly lives don’t match up with what we are seeing on the socials. And we know it’s wreaking havoc on our social-emotional well-being. Yet, here we are.
Your feelings should be FELT. Feel them fully. Feel them without judgment, shame or guilt. Your feelings are important because they act as a beacon, telling you that you have some work to do. Don’t skip this step because it will come back around. Our feelings can be stuffed, but they always bubble back up and wreak havoc on our mental and physical wellness. So, process them thoroughly and take the time you need for this important step. Once you have done that, you can sort them and actually move forward in a healthy way.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but you may surprise yourself as to how easy (and quick) it can actually be to transform your thoughts and energy! In the beginning of my own transformation, I thought affirmations were woo-woo and stupid, so I did some big-time eye rolls anytime anyone mentioned affirmations, BUT…when life got real lifey and brought about unbearable pain, I could see that my negativity would send me in a tailspin that I might not get out of.
Bottom line: I was desperate.
Your belief creates the life you have or the life you want. If you don’t like the outcomes in your life (in any or all areas), you must change your beliefs. The same is true for your self-worth. What is self-worth anyway? Self-Worth is what you believe about yourself.