Sometimes we just want someone to tell us what to do because making the decision for ourselves means we have to slow down, gather more information and weigh the cost-benefits more carefully. It’s hard to do this when we just want an answer. Oftentimes, we feel restless. We feel overwhelmed. We are stressed and eager to get out of our current situation.
You’ve got a big decision to make. You have reasoned and researched. You have gathered information, journaled, and written your extended pro’s and con’s list (read the last blog about this here). Your instincts are kicking into gear, but for some reason, you still hesitate. This might be the time to think about getting some input from a trusted advisor.
There is a time for advice and there is a role of advice. Don’t underestimate the power of your own intuition in the face of “getting good advice”.
How many times have you said, “I knew I should have done ‘x’” or “I knew I should have listened to my gut instead of so-and-so”. It’s so easy to second guess ourselves when we do not value or trust ourselves. This is not a criticism of you, but rather more of an observation of the environment that made you feel like you couldn’t or shouldn’t trust yourself.
Gathering more information is crucial in making a decision, because it also means that the more information I have, the less I am going to second-guess myself. With more information, I can not only make a better, more informed decision, but I can make it with confidence.
When it comes to decision making, YOU have to be the one to make the decision, because it is YOU who is going to live with the outcome of your decision. So, if you are not feeling it, take heed. There is a reason.
Making decisions can be difficult because they can be filled with risks, uncertainty and fears. Making decisions can also be challenging when there is a lack of self-trust and emotional trauma. I share my journey of breaking free from a toxic church and finding myself for the first time.