Sometimes we just want someone to tell us what to do because making the decision for ourselves means we have to slow down, gather more information and weigh the cost-benefits more carefully. It’s hard to do this when we just want an answer. Oftentimes, we feel restless. We feel overwhelmed. We are stressed and eager to get out of our current situation.
There is a time for advice and there is a role of advice. Don’t underestimate the power of your own intuition in the face of “getting good advice”.
How many times have you said, “I knew I should have done ‘x’” or “I knew I should have listened to my gut instead of so-and-so”. It’s so easy to second guess ourselves when we do not value or trust ourselves. This is not a criticism of you, but rather more of an observation of the environment that made you feel like you couldn’t or shouldn’t trust yourself.