There is a time for advice and there is a role of advice. Don’t underestimate the power of your own intuition in the face of “getting good advice”.
How many times have you said, “I knew I should have done ‘x’” or “I knew I should have listened to my gut instead of so-and-so”. It’s so easy to second guess ourselves when we do not value or trust ourselves. This is not a criticism of you, but rather more of an observation of the environment that made you feel like you couldn’t or shouldn’t trust yourself.
Here is the reality: if you are not able to love yourself as you are, in the NOW, you won’t be able to love yourself if you lose 5, 10, 20 or more pounds (you know I’m right). And, IF you lose some weight, chances are high that you won’t love yourself in your new, smaller size. You will likely find something else about yourself that you don’t love. Amiright?!
Here’s the thing: Negative energy is unhelpful. And negative energy breeds more negative energy. Extra “not helpful”.
Learn to change your mental game (your beliefs) and begin to make changes in your life. Don’t believe me? Try these affirmations out.
I settled. I settled HARD. The American Dream: Getting married (bonus points of it is your high school sweetheart), raising a family. A dog. Good, steady jobs (bonus points for a good retirement). A house with a big yard. Two cars and annual vacations…It was in my sights, but always just out of reach. The American Dream betrayed me more than it served me. Perhaps, I betrayed myself in some way. Little did I know,—little did I understand the world. How many of us actually understand the world as a barely-there young adult? It wasn’t just the world I didn’t understand. I didn’t understand myself.